Discipline

This is a hard one for me. It is hard to decide what is appropriate discipline for 2 year olds. I have tried a wide range of things....most of which don't phase them. I have read all kinds of books on discipline....and I honestly think the decision has to be based primarily on the kid.

For example, a time-out works for Danner. I threaten a time-out and she immediately changes her behavior. She is a Mommy-pleaser. So I can threaten a time-out, count to three, and her behavior has instantly improved. If she does something to hurt someone or herself she automatically gets time-out...which hurts her feelings and results in a massive amount of tears and apologies and kisses.

Sawyer is not so easy. In fact he is quite the challenge. Time-outs are pointless with him. He will sit there...not bothered...apologize...and five minutes or less later he is back to the same behavior that got him there in the first place. I have tried other things.....a "popping" which I never ever wanted to be the "spanking" momma. But I do admit that there are days where I KNOW he most definitely deserves a nice hard pop on the behind. But I don't.....I give him a pop on his leg or hand. Not hard enough to even cause a reaction....which of course, makes me mad. Today he took a car and threw it right at Porter's head. Why? Jealously, maybe? Who knows? Well, it obviously hurt Porter and pissed me off beyond belief. So I marched his little butt right up to his room and closed the door. And left him there screaming, crying, and kicking the walls.He sounded quite miserable up there and I did feel bad for him getting so upset. But after a few hours  minutes later when I went in he was sorry and hugging me and apologizing and genuinely happy that he was free. Could this be my new discipline procedure for him? Don't know how long it will last but for today it works.

Any suggestions for the strong-willed, hard-headed little boys??